Posted September 20, 2018 by dove in Sex & Relationships

People You love Disappoint You? When Expectations Hurt

When Expectations hurt| Motivation
When Expectations hurt| Motivation

An expectation is a firm belief that something will happen. It is a confident feeling about someone or something.

In every relationship we have different expectations; people expect different several things from him and God also expects us to do a certain thing.

We expect him to love and support us to mention the least, He expects us to obey and love him back.  Expectation motivates us to do better, to work harder or to climb higher in life.

An expectation is a gift, not a pain for when people expect a decent thing from you, it is usually because you have given them reasons to believe in you.

However, the problem arises when it is overrated and when we live with the expectations alone.  

Questions then arise, how and what should we expect or be expected? To what extent should we fulfill peoples ’ expectations?

Problems skulk in when we live without evaluating our strength, talent, and skills.

One of the biggest challenges in today’s society is to be what you are’ when everyone else is trying to make you what they want you to be.

Many parents today endeavor to propagate their unfulfilled dreams through their offspring without allowing them to have a say in their own career. 

Of course, we need the advice and guidance of our parents and seniors, for they suggest, what seems best for us.

But blink adherence to someone’s proposed without analyzing the pros and cons will lead us nowhere.

Sometimes, because of the high expectation, we simply struggle to meet that end and to fulfill their belief.

We do not have enough guts/courage to take risks in life; however, the flip side of not risking is that we end up doing nothing.

Balancing our interest with the various expectation is pivotal because at the end of the day it is going to affect and hurt both the parties equally.

After so many rigorous effort and struggle if we still fail, we will be disappointed beyond measure and the people who expected success from us would be equally frustrated.

Therefore, imperative to balance the things expected of us with our own potential and skill. Because though people want something from us so much it is possible that it is just not for us.

So discovering what God has planned and gifted each of us Is the key to success and satisfaction in life.

God has planned and gifted each of us

we can never discover new ocean unless we have the courage to lose sight of the shore

Of course, we can never discover new ocean unless we have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

We should be adventurous enough to find out our area of interest, but that does not mean we should blindly follow the course of life someone wants us to go after. T.S. Eliot once said; “between conception and experience falls a shadow”.

It is quite true in our context today, there is much gap between our dream and the hard fact reality we are stuck in.

A shadow and hollowness exist between what we aspire and how we actually materialize it. Many do not know what we want in life or are afraid to live it out for fear of failure.

Some do not want to disappoint the hope and aspiration people have in them. Few carry on the burden of expectation because they like applause and approval every time from someone.

We may be just one among millions, but we are here as the ultimate hope of our family, village and community. At times, though we struggle just to stay alive and be in learn to float on, we try to show an apparent image of success because we felt bad, to tell the truth.

I don’t mean expectation is bad, but we should have a reality check to avoid much disparity between reality and illusion.

Let us do away with the shadow and pressure because our impression of success now will only cause depression in the long run.

Somebody once said; if you want someone to be special, treat them as one though they may not be, but never expect them to do all that you want them to, at times Expectations hurt.

For if we treat them as someone special it encourages and motivate them to excel and will prevent us from frustration even when they failed us.

So, let us reason together and strike a balance to make life more beautiful.